Matt Nathanson

"Car Crash"

I'm wide awake and so alive
ringing like a bell

tell me this is paradise
not some place I fell
(I fell)

let me feel the car crash
just tip me 'til I capsize
I've been, waiting for the moon light
to be open wide

let me feel the car crash
just tip me until I capsize
I've been, waiting for the moon light
and I'm open wide

I’m wide awake and so alive
I’ve shed my skin like scars

just take me deep out past the lights
but nothing dims these stars
(they don't dim)

let me feel the car crash
just tip me 'till I capsize, love
I'm waiting for the moon light
to come and open wide

let me feel the car crash
just tip me 'till I capsize
I'm just, waiting for the moon light
to be open wide

(just don't know why)

(it's all wrong)

I'm wide awake and so alive
so let me feel a car crash
just tip me until I capsize
waiting for your moon light to come and open me wide

let me feel the car crash
because I'm waiting for the sun shine
love I'm waiting, waiting to be open wide
because I'm waiting, waiting to be open wide

get it here:

http://www.prettytheworld.com/index.php?m=media&c=downloads

last song on this page

scariest thing i've ever seen.

 

I didn’t believe this, so I had to pull it into Photoshop and check it myself. And it’s actually friggin’ true.

It's official, I have the most boring life in the universe....actually, make that the 2nd most boring life.

Convo with a friend:

her:   long time, no speak, what you been up to lately?

me:   nothing really, absolutely nothing.   I have a very boring life....all i do is work,

        come home, eat a chicken burrito, and go to bed.

her:   wow, that IS boring.

 

so you can painfully see why I havn't updated lately.......

hmmm, haven't updated since may........went to aruba in July, that was fun.

saw 2 movies this weekend....the 40 yr old virgin (over-rated in my opinion) and Red Eye (decent, but nothing spectacular)

also saw "the goonies"......didn't think it was anything spectacular.

Matt Nathanson will be on tour again starting in OCTOBER:

www.mattnathanson.com     MORE DATES TO BE ADDED SOON!!!

 

 

All smokers should die.

Simple.  I am sick and tired of having to walk behind these morons.  Smoking should be illegal, but that is beside the point.  I understand that (under the current law) these morons have a right to smoke.  However, I also have a right to not get stuck behind them all the time when i'm walking around Manhattan whether it be during lunch or before or after work.  I was so tempted to tell some stupid girl yesterday to "quit smoking" when i passed her on the street.  The constant smell of fumes from these people are ridiculous.  PLUS it's unhealthy and DISGUSTING.

 

I've also been thinking a lot how people are like stocks.  Some of them are undervalued, some of them are valued correctly, and some of them are insanely over-valued.  I think the value of a person on a totally superficial level is:

1.  Looks.  How hot are they?  Some (women in particular) women simply don't realize how beautiful they are.  THAT is sexy. (this would be an undervalued case)  Girl is ridiculously hot but you know that she doesn't think so.   On the other hand, some girls walk around like they are "da bomb shit" and that is repulsive.

2. Brains.  Same principle.  Some people think they're smart but they're morons.  Some think they're stupid but they're very smart.  In my life, I've generally found that people that SAY they are smart, are stupid.  Most of the smartest people i've ever met in my life walk around all the time telling others that they are stupid, when the reality is quite different. 

 

I saw a woman on the train today reading Cosmo.  An article she was reading caught my attention so I was trying to peak over.  I don't understand people who get offended by you peaking at their newspaper.  It's just a FREAKIN PUBLIC NEWSPAPER!!!!  Some of these people act like I'm peaking into their private diary or something.  RELAX PEOPLE!!!!!!  But anyway, back to Cosmo.  I peaked over and then she TURNED THE PAGE and tried to hold the magazine differently so I couldn't read it......IT WAS SO OBVIOUS she wanted to read the article as well.  Stupid bitch.  Anyway, at some point she turned back and continued to read the article.  I'll have to go buy the magazine myself at some point later today.  I love cosmo but i never buy/read it.  I'd pick it up if I saw it at a hair salon or store or waiting room or friend's house or whatever.  But I'd usually never buy it.   Anyway, back to women.  Some of these women are so stupid.  It was spygirlny http://www.xanga.com/spygirlny who said it best:  A guy does not care if you smell like a peach or an apricot or a strawberry.  If you're fat, you can forget it.  This is a similiar concept, courtesy of me.  HELLO WOMEN OF THE WORLD:  STOP READING COSMO.  Since so much of the cover of cosmo is devoted to sex, I thought I would help sum it up:

Pottyboomy's RULES FOR PLEASING YOUR MAN:

1.  Do what he wants.  If he wants doggie-style, or anal, or wants you to dress up like a nurse, you DO it.  If he wants a blowjob every day, you do it.  If he wants to have sex in a public phone-booth, you do it.  He communicates to you what he wants, and you do it.  simple idea, really.  THAT is how to please a man. 

2. Don't be fat.  If you're fat you have more important things to do with your life than reading Cosmo, i mean really.....

3. Refer to rules 1 and 2.  

Cosmo always has 1,000 things you need to do in order to please your man.  I've read the articles before, they are bullshit for the most part.  There's only so many things you can POSSIBLY do in the bedroom to drive YOUR MAN WILD.  and again, if you need to read an article in order to figure out how to drive him wild you have more problems than trying to drive him wild.

 

and it's okay if you have go away
just remember the telephone works both ways
and if I never ever hear it ring
if nothing else I'll think the bells inside
have finally found you someone else and that's okay
cause I'll remember everything you sang

-jason mraz

Stole this from the same girl as the previous posts. 

 

 

Labels

 

As an adult, I’ve realized that having a girlfriend/boyfriend isn’t just about dating or even being exclusive. It's part of your image. Some parents may advise you not to date the wrong people bc it may ruin your image. This pertains to both men and women.

 

When you’re in high school and college, if you’re romantically involved with a person, he/she is your boyfriend/girlfriend. You start “going out”. When you’re an adult, it’s a lot more complicated than that. You don’t hand out these labels with ease anymore.

 

I’ve witnessed a few girls get superior treatment but no girlfriend label. I don’t think the guy was dating other people. He just didn’t want a gf. You’re directly associated with a person if you are a girlfriend/boyfriend.

 

Some women and men don’t want to have official labels. Some women may feel cheap and feel hurt if the guy clearly says you are just dating and points out to people that the girl is NOT his girlfriend. Other guys may have gfs but cheat on the gf.

 

What do you think of labels? Important or not important at all???

 

In the 25+ world, it matters. Casual dating needs no mention. Giving/having that label has much more value. If a guy/girl doesn't want to give it to you, that's a HUGE sign.

 

For what it's worth, I think labels are over-rated.   In the end, they mean nothing.  All that matters is how the person feels about you. 

stole this from the same girl as previous posts.

Happy Internet Couples

 

They met via Asian Avenue, match.com, Xanga, JDate....I feel like many of these couples are significantly happier than any real life couple that I know. ALL the real couples I know have a shitload of problems.

 

The traditional way people date in my world: Guy meets Girl at a bar, school event, church, family gathering, etc. Guy thinks Girl is cute. Girl thinks guy is cute. They start talking, hanging out, hooking up, maybe falling in love.

 

The process of eliminating the guy/girl is drawn out bc of physical attraction. Lust/chemistry/whatever you want to call it tends to make people more tolerant of negative characteristics of a person.

 

In real life, you’re drawn to looks first. On the net, you’re drawn to personality.

 

I know this one guy who is smart but an asshole. Unless he had his MIT alma mater stamped to his forehead, I don’t think any girl would look twice at him. Then one day, the asshole guy brings out this really cute girl. They met via the internet. I highly doubt they would have hit it off in a normal real life scenario. They seemed really happy together and last time I heard were engaged.

 

A few years ago I met this one girl who had a fiancé she met via the internet. I think they had chatted/emailed for MONTHS and met up somewhere like Tokyo or Hong Kong. They hit it off but were constantly separated by thousands of miles. This long distance relationship (which I would normally consider imaginary) seemed to work. They had real feelings, real emotions.

 

Perhaps it’s better to develop an emotional connection before a physical connection?

 

Do you think internet couples have a better chance in the long haul??? Or is it the same, just a different venue of meeting?

how can i believe in something
when you're never here?
i'm not even sure i need this
how can i believe?

--blu sanders.  "get in the car and drive"

I stole this from the same girl on Xangas as noted below in my previous post.  I think i just might steal ALL her posts.  cuz i just dont have anything to say. 

 

 

Chemistry

 

At the end of the day, it’s about chemistry. An imperfect guy may just be adorable. Then you can be handed a picture perfect guy and just not feel anything.

 

There have been a few guys I really wish I could have liked. I loved their personality. I loved spending time with them. Other girls may have gushed over them but I simply didn’t feel it. The idea of them kissing me grosses me out.

 

I think I’ve dated resumes in the past. I go out on dates with stacked resumes when there is ZERO chemistry. Good conversation does not equal chemistry. Good looks don’t equal chemistry either.

 

I have a friend from college who is really cute. Whenever my friends meet him, they think he’s really hot and ask me why I don’t hook up with him. He is really attractive but I feel no chemistry.

 

Is chemistry just lust?

 

Last year one of my single friends was being pursued by a low occupation guy. He didn’t go to college. My friend wasn’t interested in him. He was cute with a great personality. I told my friend to go for it. She snapped, “LIChunsaH, you would NEVER date a guy like that.” Actually I think I would. Those types of guys just never pursue me.

 

When it comes down to it, it’s how you feel when they are near you. Does he make your heart beat faster? Do you want him to come closer? Does he make you smile?

 

Perhaps this doesn’t pertain to males since just about ANYTHING can get them excited if they haven’t been laid for 1 or 2 days, let alone 6 months. Maybe guys will confuse sexual frustration and/or being horny with chemistry.  (I really like this sentence I just wrote. lol I like how I amuse myself. hehe)

I stole this from someone on xanga. yes, i stole it.  get over it. 

The Search for the “One”

 

I think the search for the one can cripple a person’s happiness.

 

There are so many reasons why the person you are dating could not be the one. He drinks too much. She slept with too many guys. He isn’t very motivated. She has no goals. He comes from a poor family. She is too needy. He is the eldest son and he needs to live with his mother. She isn’t smart enough. His brother sucks. She comes from a divorced family. He isn’t Christian. She is the wrong kind of Chinese. He stopped trying. She is getting fat. He has poor table manners. She isn't classy enough. blah blah blah

 

I’ve heard it so many times. Guys and girls ending relationships bc after a yr or two or three, one or both people in the relationship start thinking the person they have been in a relationship is not the magical one.

 

You can have this fabulous girl or guy and you just don’t feel “it”. But what is “it”?

 

Most likely if you’ve dated for a long time, at some point you had “it”.

 

I really think it is all about timing. A 22 yr old guy may not appreciate the perfect girl who liked him in accounting class while he was too interested in banging some slutty looking chick with nicer boobs. A 21 yr old may have been blinded by loving some loser while the sweetest guy stood by her for years and she never took notice.

 

One day, a guy or girl may feel ready to settle down. Then they find someone who feels right and magically they found the “one”.

 

Some people don't even begin to date a person bc they already know he/she is not the one. (Girls do this more as they get older bc their precious time is running out.) But how will you know if he/she is not the one if you don't even know him/her yet?

 

 

Pottyboomy comments:

 

The more and more I think about it.....I dont think there's such a thing as "the one."  I think it's kind of  a bunch of bologna that people tell themselves to make themselves feel better about life and the decisions that they make.  It's like people believing in God or something......I'm not saying that i DONT believe in god....but i'm also not saying that i DO.    I was gonna write more but.....maybe later. 

 

 

 

I also stole this from the same girl on xanga. yes, i stole it.  get over it. 

After the Honeymoon Phase

One of my guy friends calls me last night. His gf is bitching at him in the background to get off the phone bc his voice is keeping her up. I found this in itself to be amusing bc my guy friend is totally not the type to put up with that type of situation. He used to be Mr. Social and one of those guys who knew every pretty girl. I know you know these types of guys…

Without even knowing the girl, I already know she’s very pretty and has a nice body. Amongst most of the guys I know, this guy has great taste in women. (I think you are totally shallow about looks.) I picture her to be a complete princess, very demanding and probably very sharp.

So they’ve been dating for many years now and have been living together for a while now as well. When you are over 25 and have been dating your bf/gf for 2-5 years, it’s pretty common for people to ask you if you think you guys will get married.

He’s like all hesitant and says she is pushing the marriage issue. Then he says he’ll probably marry her and be a bitter old man. haha How romantic does that sound??? It’s like marriage proposal under duress.

I have no doubt in my mind that at one point they were head over heels in love. But what about after the honeymoon phase??? All honeymoon phases end sooner or later. Since they’ve been living together for a while, it isn’t like something will drastically change if they actually got married.

One older girl once told me not to wait too long to get married bc she said if you date someone for too long, the romance disappears and your relationship becomes platonic. She had dated her BF for ten years and they never got married. They didn’t get married, not bc they didn’t love one another but bc their romantic relationship turned into friendship.

Her advice to me: Date someone for like a year or two, get engaged, spend a year planning a beautiful wedding, have a newlywed life, then have children. She said if you date for too long, you get cheated of the honeymoon phase of marriage or will never get married at all.

Ack, all my friends have been breaking up with their long-term BFs and then I hear of these girls who get married after like 3 months of dating. I’m beginning to think it’s all about timing.

A 28-29 year old male may look for a decent girl to marry while there is probably no way a 22 year old male would be ready. I think most girls are always ready as long as they meet the right guy.